Therapy designed to help you process, heal, & rebuild meaning
Despite the name, Solution Focused Brief Therapy doesn't mean I hand you solutions. It means I start with the assumption that you know yourself better than anyone else ever could. You are the hero of your story. I am here to be your sidekick. This is the evidence-based, extensively researched modality I work with.
The first question I'll ask you in SFBT is "What is your best hope from working with me?" Hope isn't a feeling. It's the knowing that you can become the next best version of yourself, even when the rest of the world is at its worst. Think of it like getting in a cab. The driver doesn't ask where you don't want to end up. They ask for the destination. That's what I want to know. That next best version of yourself? That’s the destination we're working towards.
"Brief" in Solution Focused Brief Therapy doesn't mean short. It means as many sessions as you need, and not one more. We'll know we're done when you tell me we've arrived. Because you're the expert on your own life, and I trust you will know.
It's my privilege to be your therapeutic sidekick.
Life after loss can feel like being thrown into a world you never wanted to be in, yet cannot leave. In this new reality, you face the difficult task of rediscovering and reconstructing who you are.
The hope I speak of is not about erasing grief or pretending the loss did not happen. The loss remains, and so does the grief that comes with it. Instead, hope means creating the best possible version of yourself within this changed and often painful world. Together, we will find meaningful ways for you to carry your grief, honor your loss, and build a life that allows both grief and hope to exist side by side.
Forget the stages. Forget the promise of an orderly, timed, step-by-step grief process. Missing what or whom you lost isn't something you're supposed to get over. It becomes part of the new version of you that's still being built. And even then, it doesn't shrink. We grow around it.
Growing around grief: the jar theory
In 1996, psychologist Dr. Lois Tonkin introduced a different way of thinking about grief. Picture a jar with a ball inside it. The ball is your grief. It doesn't shrink. But the jar - you, your life, your capacity - grows. You build a life with your grief in it, rather than waiting for it to disappear. You're not moving on from it. You're moving on with it.
Baby steps. Literally.
Change doesn't happen in big leaps. It happens in tiny moments we almost miss. Think about how babies learn to walk: it doesn't start with a first step; it starts with trying to sit up, then crawling backward. Yet, somehow, they get to walking forward. Grief works the same way. We fall, and we get back up, and that's not failure. That's the process.
You don't have to be in crisis to come to individual therapy, and you absolutely don't need to wonder if what you're going through "counts." It does. If something feels off or if life doesn't look the way you thought it would, that's enough.
In our sessions, I'll ask you what your best hope is for coming to therapy, and we'll build from there. You bring the expertise on your own life. I bring the tools, the clinical training, and the genuine belief that you are capable of becoming who you want to be, even now, even after everything.
Relational therapy isn't just for relationships in crisis. It's for people who want to understand each other better, communicate more clearly, or find their way back to each other after something hard. Family, biological or chosen, is a system. When one part of the system is struggling, the whole system feels it.
Grief, in particular, has a way of pulling people apart even when they love each other deeply, because no two people grieve the same way. Whether you're navigating a loss together, trying to support a family member who is struggling, or simply trying to reconnect, relational therapy can give you a space to be honest with each other in ways that are hard to do alone.
Nobody in the room is the problem. That's where we start.